Saboteur archetypal energy screams at you with your inner voice. It actively and unceasingly sends messages born out of fear of failure and sometimes, fear of success. You hear it as self-talk or “I messages.” Because of the Saboteur, you create judgements of and for yourself that skew reality. Many of these judgements are learned from your tribe very early in your lives. They run the gamut from doubt of capabilities to feelings of being entitled to certain advantages. There are endless variations of: I will fail, so why try; What if I got the job, I’m not good enough to keep it; I’m too good to get involved with these people; I’m entitled to better things.
Make no mistake, entitlement is as big a trap as the, “I can’t”(s). No, you are not entitled to anything. Because you were born privileged or you have been victimized in some way does not entitle you to special treatment. And no, it is not true that you are worthless, helpless, incapable, and so on. Both of these thought processes are the very thing that stops you from stepping into your real power and expressing the best of who you are. Unfortunately, once you grow up, you don’t realize you need to think better of yourself and your place in the world. Most of us somehow feel we need permission to rethink our training which means; we are still operating from the level of the archetypal Child.
Each journey is different. Your journey is different. Tribal rules are valuable when you are small and need protection and some of these teachings may still have value. But, part of self-care must be that you examine the beliefs and dictates of your tribe and decide if they are right for where you are in the expression of your life and soul growth. Where do you want to go in this life? This has nothing to do with other’s hopes for you. You don’t need permission to seek your highest good!
Suicide is the ultimate expression of the Saboteur’s work. People with families, careers that create approbation and privilege, pillars of the community, or the young with unending potential can be so involved in the myths of the Saboteur that they, in desperation, take their own lives. Fear and the masquerading emotions of defeat, worthlessness, depression, alienation, and anxiety motivate some of our best and brightest to put out their own light. We are the worse for it.
Since the Saboteur speaks to you with your own voice, it is imperative that you are vigilant with your inner dialog. Those words you tell yourself, no matter the original source, can make you fulfill your every dream or plunge you into defeat and despair. Think about those times when you let Saboteur speak out. You might talk about your self-doubts in the hope that someone will convince you that you are wrong about being awful. While talking may give some relief from the flagellation you endure in your mind, you never believe the kind words spoken in rebuttal. The Saboteur sees to that. For true relief, this is a battle you must fight for and, largely, by yourselves. Your “I messages” must be made loving. We all need to approach our fragile self with compassion for it to grow into fullness.
Find the resources deep within to speak and think of yourself with as much love and compassion as you would for other people you meet. Also, when you hear others expressing negative opinions about themselves, call them on it. Remind them to speak about themselves with loving kindness. This not only reminds them, it reminds you of that which must be done if you are to stop undermining yourself. Help yourself by being mindful of your self-talk and, when possible, help others to understand the power of their words.
Your thoughts and your words create your world.
Your thoughts and questions can also help direct our conversations. I welcome them. Also, please feel free to like and share on Facebook.
Love always,
Katherine
Make no mistake, entitlement is as big a trap as the, “I can’t”(s). No, you are not entitled to anything. Because you were born privileged or you have been victimized in some way does not entitle you to special treatment. And no, it is not true that you are worthless, helpless, incapable, and so on. Both of these thought processes are the very thing that stops you from stepping into your real power and expressing the best of who you are. Unfortunately, once you grow up, you don’t realize you need to think better of yourself and your place in the world. Most of us somehow feel we need permission to rethink our training which means; we are still operating from the level of the archetypal Child.
Each journey is different. Your journey is different. Tribal rules are valuable when you are small and need protection and some of these teachings may still have value. But, part of self-care must be that you examine the beliefs and dictates of your tribe and decide if they are right for where you are in the expression of your life and soul growth. Where do you want to go in this life? This has nothing to do with other’s hopes for you. You don’t need permission to seek your highest good!
Suicide is the ultimate expression of the Saboteur’s work. People with families, careers that create approbation and privilege, pillars of the community, or the young with unending potential can be so involved in the myths of the Saboteur that they, in desperation, take their own lives. Fear and the masquerading emotions of defeat, worthlessness, depression, alienation, and anxiety motivate some of our best and brightest to put out their own light. We are the worse for it.
Since the Saboteur speaks to you with your own voice, it is imperative that you are vigilant with your inner dialog. Those words you tell yourself, no matter the original source, can make you fulfill your every dream or plunge you into defeat and despair. Think about those times when you let Saboteur speak out. You might talk about your self-doubts in the hope that someone will convince you that you are wrong about being awful. While talking may give some relief from the flagellation you endure in your mind, you never believe the kind words spoken in rebuttal. The Saboteur sees to that. For true relief, this is a battle you must fight for and, largely, by yourselves. Your “I messages” must be made loving. We all need to approach our fragile self with compassion for it to grow into fullness.
Find the resources deep within to speak and think of yourself with as much love and compassion as you would for other people you meet. Also, when you hear others expressing negative opinions about themselves, call them on it. Remind them to speak about themselves with loving kindness. This not only reminds them, it reminds you of that which must be done if you are to stop undermining yourself. Help yourself by being mindful of your self-talk and, when possible, help others to understand the power of their words.
Your thoughts and your words create your world.
Your thoughts and questions can also help direct our conversations. I welcome them. Also, please feel free to like and share on Facebook.
Love always,
Katherine