We do come by fear honestly. Long before we had to be concerned for our cholesterol, we had to fear for our lives; where will the next meal come from? Will I be some predator’s next meal? Long ago our lives were less secure and far more dangerous which caused basic level, instinctual programing. All of us carry this programing, even though. For the most part, we do not have those kinds of dangers anymore.
It is very difficult to turn off primal responses; our reaction to danger from the past has turned into (over)reactions today. Fear’s language sounds like this:
Rejection - I am always left out. I never get asked to participate in fun times.
Insecurity - I’m not good enough to be included. If only I could be prettier.
Submissiveness - Anything you want. I don’t deserve to have a say. Just don’t hurt me.
Haughtiness - If people find out what I’m really like, I will be humiliated.
Worthlessness - I never get it right, I always mess everything up. I’m not good for anything.
This is the language of “I can’t” and in one way or another; it expresses a basic fear of failing. Now consider people who seem to feel like the world owes them; they are entitled by station, aggressiveness, or whatever it might be. They seem confident in their outward appearance and yet, fear is a very prominent theme in their lives as well. They fear that they will be called out, possibly humiliated. They fear loss of their perceived position in society. Somehow they know they are out of balance and are afraid they can’t continue to measure up.
To be absorbed by fear in any manner is to give your personal power away to the more dominant personality, to the approval of society, and so on. At this level you are a re-actor. As long as you are ruled by these fears, you will be unable to act with self-contained and self-regulated integrity. The faces of fear are projections of that which you fear; projections created by your fear of choosing. The fear behind weakness, insecurity, haughtiness, and all the rest strips away the container (boundaries, another of The Five Words) where your integrity should be and you are left trembling, ready to be eaten alive.
Fear makes sense for a caveman or someone in a war zone, but for us in day to day life, fear stops us from finding and expressing the truth about out divine nature. The primary impulse of creation is love. Fear is what blocks love. Fear itself cannot be blocked; resisting it just makes it bigger, and so you must choose.
Everything comes down to choice which is the first of The Five Words covered in my book. Every infinitesimal moment of consciousness is imbued with the steering wheel of choice. The boat that is your life sinks, flounders, or floats on the ocean of emotion depending on choice. How you choose to respond to your emotions dictates your experience with them and your experience with life.
What are your fears? How do your fears stop you? Are you afraid of succeeding? Do you feel like, no matter what, you will fail? Do you have hope? Can you act on it?
We can certainly talk more about fear. What are your questions or concerns? Fear is huge. So many of us are afraid and don’t understand there is a way through. Please like and Share on Facebook if you feel this discussion is important. For more immediate help with fear and the other extreme emotions, please contact me or get my book here.