Archetypes are subtle energies that are woven into our lives and are the teaching formula we use for life lessons. Recently we have been talking about the Victim archetype. This archetype is part of everyone’s energy anatomy. Often it is in play with two other archetypes, Perpetrator and Rescuer. Karpman[1] defines the interaction of these three archetypes as the Victim Triangle. His conclusion is that if you enter the victim triangle at any point, you will eventually play all three roles. This is a circular dynamic. All three of these archetypes are very common in our world. Let me point out that while we all have the Victim as part of our energy system, we don’t all participate in the victim triangle.
That being said, the world community is reactive for the most part. We react according to the ingrained beliefs of our respective tribes. These beliefs are considered inviolable. They describe our view of how the world should be (our prejudice). Some people react out of fear, anger, worry, shock, and/or grief and feel they must defend their beliefs when they are challenged.
There are many groups that inspire prejudice; people of color, fat people, immigrants, and the LGBTQ community, among others. Because of the recent news about the increase in suicides among young people in the LGBTQ community, I want to discuss them specifically. Just ask, are they deviants or are they one of our greatest blessings? What is their perspective? How difficult it must be to withstand harsh, sometimes vicious and violent responses from loved ones, church members, the rest of the tribe, and even from their own conflicted selves! People who react strongly against the LGBTQ community maintain those living that lifestyle are just wrong, evil even. They are called abhorrent, against divine law. Here I must ask, does God really love anyone of us more than another? My God is not that small. Remember, all of creation was accomplished out of an impulse of pure love.
For most of the LGBTQ community, the choice was made before they were born. They are the embodiment of Katye Anna Clark’s, “I will be that which you have asked me to be so that you can be what you need to be.” Since we do not remember our pre-life sacred contracts, our choices on earth become difficult and are often not aligned with love. Here is a situation where a whole sub set of our community has agreed to a very difficult journey in this life. Make no mistake; on a soul level they have taken this path out of a great love and dedication to our collective spiritual journey. Our response to our prejudice determines if we are perpetrators who judge, punish, and revile, or if we follow the path of love, acceptance, and grace.
Those people who are reactive to the LGBTQ lifestyle feel their standard of decent behavior is violated. A foundational belief is challenged. They feel a responsibility to bring the LGBTQ person back into the fold and when the attempt is resisted, they feel rejected, punished, anxious, and, yes, even victimized. This is a tribal response. The reactive part of the LGBTQ community feels rejected and judged. They feel torn between what the tribe has told them is right and acceptable and their natural orientation. They struggle for understanding and acceptance and feel like victims when this is denied. Of course, they push back or despair. Despair is what caused the increased rate of suicide reported recently. Bottom line, each group feels victimized. Each group feels it necessary to justify, rescue, or push back. Too often, the opportunity to practice loving compassion and acceptance is lost to fear, anxiety, and rejection of the misunderstood other. The emotions causing these conflicts are all of the extreme emotions I talk about in my book: fear, grief, worry, shock, and anger. Remember, all of these emotions are part of creation in order to inspire us, to teach us, and to lead us back to Divine love.
So, I want to say thank you to the LGBTQ community, and to all others like it, for taking on such a difficult journey. You do not need justification for your existence. You do not need society’s blessing. You are gifts to our world. You are among the highest of teachers. You challenge our perceptions. We challenge your right to be different. As a consequence, we both have an opportunity to learn to be accepting and respectful while still being who and what we are. As a world community, our journey through judgement and prejudice is difficult, to say the least, but if groups such as LGBTQ can be born as a spring board toward divine compassion and love, we can all strive to step out of the victim triangle.
My wish is that these words will give hope to the despairing and conflicted young out there. You are loved by the Highest Source. Your lives matter.
Please, like and share this if you are so guided. Don't forget to contact me with questions and comments as these direct our discussions.
Love always,
Katherine
[1] Karpman, S. (1968). Fairy tales and script drama analysis. Transactional Analysis Bulletin, 7(26), 39-43.
That being said, the world community is reactive for the most part. We react according to the ingrained beliefs of our respective tribes. These beliefs are considered inviolable. They describe our view of how the world should be (our prejudice). Some people react out of fear, anger, worry, shock, and/or grief and feel they must defend their beliefs when they are challenged.
There are many groups that inspire prejudice; people of color, fat people, immigrants, and the LGBTQ community, among others. Because of the recent news about the increase in suicides among young people in the LGBTQ community, I want to discuss them specifically. Just ask, are they deviants or are they one of our greatest blessings? What is their perspective? How difficult it must be to withstand harsh, sometimes vicious and violent responses from loved ones, church members, the rest of the tribe, and even from their own conflicted selves! People who react strongly against the LGBTQ community maintain those living that lifestyle are just wrong, evil even. They are called abhorrent, against divine law. Here I must ask, does God really love anyone of us more than another? My God is not that small. Remember, all of creation was accomplished out of an impulse of pure love.
For most of the LGBTQ community, the choice was made before they were born. They are the embodiment of Katye Anna Clark’s, “I will be that which you have asked me to be so that you can be what you need to be.” Since we do not remember our pre-life sacred contracts, our choices on earth become difficult and are often not aligned with love. Here is a situation where a whole sub set of our community has agreed to a very difficult journey in this life. Make no mistake; on a soul level they have taken this path out of a great love and dedication to our collective spiritual journey. Our response to our prejudice determines if we are perpetrators who judge, punish, and revile, or if we follow the path of love, acceptance, and grace.
Those people who are reactive to the LGBTQ lifestyle feel their standard of decent behavior is violated. A foundational belief is challenged. They feel a responsibility to bring the LGBTQ person back into the fold and when the attempt is resisted, they feel rejected, punished, anxious, and, yes, even victimized. This is a tribal response. The reactive part of the LGBTQ community feels rejected and judged. They feel torn between what the tribe has told them is right and acceptable and their natural orientation. They struggle for understanding and acceptance and feel like victims when this is denied. Of course, they push back or despair. Despair is what caused the increased rate of suicide reported recently. Bottom line, each group feels victimized. Each group feels it necessary to justify, rescue, or push back. Too often, the opportunity to practice loving compassion and acceptance is lost to fear, anxiety, and rejection of the misunderstood other. The emotions causing these conflicts are all of the extreme emotions I talk about in my book: fear, grief, worry, shock, and anger. Remember, all of these emotions are part of creation in order to inspire us, to teach us, and to lead us back to Divine love.
So, I want to say thank you to the LGBTQ community, and to all others like it, for taking on such a difficult journey. You do not need justification for your existence. You do not need society’s blessing. You are gifts to our world. You are among the highest of teachers. You challenge our perceptions. We challenge your right to be different. As a consequence, we both have an opportunity to learn to be accepting and respectful while still being who and what we are. As a world community, our journey through judgement and prejudice is difficult, to say the least, but if groups such as LGBTQ can be born as a spring board toward divine compassion and love, we can all strive to step out of the victim triangle.
My wish is that these words will give hope to the despairing and conflicted young out there. You are loved by the Highest Source. Your lives matter.
Please, like and share this if you are so guided. Don't forget to contact me with questions and comments as these direct our discussions.
Love always,
Katherine
[1] Karpman, S. (1968). Fairy tales and script drama analysis. Transactional Analysis Bulletin, 7(26), 39-43.