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All is in Divine Order

11/4/2018

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Why is there so much division and vitriol in this country? Why is there so little recognition of who we as Americans really are?  I understand that all is in Divine order, that this president and his disregard for the founding principles of the United States of America and his dismantling of our human rights and liberties, is right and good and there IS a reason for it.

Yet, my fear is gripping, immobilizing. I am bereft. Fear causes me to want to scream out for it to stop, for the destruction he is causing to be recognized, and for people to take a stand together.  It amazes me that there is anyone capable of believing him.  It amazed me from the beginning how he could be voted into the office he holds.  It amazes me that he has uncovered and cultivated a divide in the people of this nation that is on par with the division that birthed the Civil War. Why do those who voted him into office seem oblivious to the fact that his policies and fear mongering destroys their welfare, safety, and potential for growth?  It terrifies me how much his approach echoes that of Hitler.
 
And yet, all is in Divine order.  He is an accurate representation of how, as a nation, we have lost our moral imperative.  He brings to light the greed in our business organizations and the lack of compassion for our children, elderly, homeless, infirm, and poor. He casts refugees and immigrants as villains when our ancestors were refugees and immigrants.  They sought asylum from persecution, for safety, freedom, and hope just generations ago. I have stood in the great immigration hall of Ellis Island and felt the waves of our ancestors’ tears and tenuous hope as if they were standing beside me.  On the TV right now you see the same story with a much different ending.
 
Here is my truth: I want to teach, to inspire, but nothing comes when I try to write. There is so much happening.  I do not want to dwell on this in a negative manner.  How much of politics do I want to bring into my work?  How do I put a helpful spiritual spin on the impossible things that are going on?  How do I turn my fear that our nation is being turned upside down into a calming yet galvanizing message of hope?   I listen to my soul and share its guidance when I can. I give love where I can. I speak up and defend others when I have an opportunity. I vote. I hold others accountable for living in love.
 
Donald Trump challenges us so that we will wake up!  He is the complete embodiment of “I will be what you have asked me to be so that you can be that which you need to be.”
[1] So the question is: what do we want to be?  What is our nation really?  Do we stand for the ideal presented on the Statue of Liberty: “Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free.”  Or, do we continue to plunder the earth, deny the precepts in our sacred writings, and close our eyes to the suffering of those we could help if we were not so focused on whatever level of exploitation is our personal poison?
 
Destruction does make way for new things.  Are we in need of a new nation and a new world order?  Perhaps that is what you believe.  I suppose we need to thank the president for waking us up.  Thank him for giving us a choice so clearly.  We can stand on a level of higher consciousness and act, or we can let him and his yes men lead us further into the destruction of our nation and its sacred ideals.  What’s your vote?
 

Love Always,
Katherine




[1] Katye Anna Clark, https://www.facebook.com/katye.clark.9?lst=571182919%3A1229078570%3A1541268859

 
 
 
 


[1] Katye Anna Clark, https://www.facebook.com/katye.clark.9?lst=571182919%3A1229078570%3A1541268859
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October 06th, 2018

10/6/2018

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Has it has been that long since I said goodbye to my house in Pennsylvania and headed to Chicago area to start a new phase of my life?  It feels as if I just left but much has happened from mundane water issues and appliance trials to more spiritual challenges. I’m told the astrology of the recent past is all about retrogrades.  Yes, it feels like there is always something in retrograde!  I must say, my experience with that one step forward, three steps back challenged me and I wonder, if I need to remind myself I am making choices, how many people are on autopilot and don’t realize they are choosing?  Choice is the first of the five words because recognizing that you choose your life allows you to take responsibility for and power from your choices. 
 
Knowing there is always a choice does not equate to being right minded.  Choosing anything based on habit, peer pressure, and fear demonstrates a lack of self-awareness and courage.  What is essential to living an honorable and spiritual life involves questioning old habits and the life-long training that spawned them.  No, not all habits are bad but all need to be evaluated based on what is truly important to you as a divine being walking a spiritual path through a messy time.  We are in the middle of some very messy times.
 
It is time to choose to take a hard look at our personal stories.  How does one get past the auto responses and find a way to kindness?  It is done one step, one experience, one reaction at a time.  I was shocked at how easily I was able to go back to a dictatorial angry person just because little kids were being little kids.  What happened to me?  Where, after all the work I’ve done, did that come from?  Looking at the whole picture, I found that my reactions were hardwired into my nervous system.  The sensations that wound me up and set me off were physically painful.  The triggers were predictable and so were my reactions.  Does all of this excuse me?  No.  That is where choice comes in.  That is where the tools for spiritual growth and process come in.  We must make ourselves bigger, better, and more kind by stopping our automatic responses and by removing reactions that are not in keeping with love.
 
Feeling great sadness, I was up much of the night running through the experience, considering how it could be justified or appropriate.  It was clearly an over the top reaction and the deep sorrow I felt couldn’t change the effects of the behavior.  It was up to me to change it.  I thought it through, where did I over-react?  What would have been a better approach?  How could I have acted that would have taken me to the desired place and preserved everyone’s dignity and light?  Once I came to the solution, I practiced it. I made up different scenarios and adapted my newly developed response.  When life presented me with the opportunity I was able to respond with my new approach and it worked.
 
Remember, our public stories are a reflection of our personal states of being.   As above, so below.   Our public mess is not messier than our private one.  It is a reflection of it.  Compromised standards and double standards are crippling not only our national life but our personal lives as well.  We must center ourselves in the consciousness of divine love.  We must hold ourselves accountable.  We must make studied choices about how our lives will proceed.  Our nation is split right now and the gulf is getting wider.  To fix that, we must fix the part of us that allows imbalance, injustice, ambivalence, wrong thinking, or worse yet, unconscious action or reaction.  We need to check in with our souls and choose to be more.

As always, your questions and comments are welcome.
 
Love always,
Katherine


 
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Guns and god

6/24/2018

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"What polarized us so badly toward guns and god...with a small g?"  This is a great question from a reader.  Just as individuals have energies that makeup the issues they are meant to deal with during their life, so it is with nations.  Our nation’s consciousness and conscience is made of the combined energies and intent of the people.  Each of us is a part of a national energetic collective consciousness; we all play our part.  Your personal integrity, social, political, and spiritual attitudes, help create the national voice.
 
Guns:  Historically we are taught to believe that our nation was won by heroes with six shooters. Movies idealize and romanticize the struggle our fledgling country had against the British, the Spanish, the Mexican, the Indian, the wild west, and with ourselves.  War after war, guns and more guns, this nation has prided itself on its self-determination and divine right.  Never challenged to look into the baser motives that underlay these wars, Americans charged forward, their misunderstood or misinformed ideals in their hip pocket and guns blazing.  Is that prostituting self-determination?  Have we squandered our divine right?
 
Don’t get me wrong, there were acts of greatness on all sides of these conflicts.  A hero actually has an inkling of what sits in his or her back pocket and acts even when those actions contradict the general directive.  Still, once expectation, entitlement, greed, and so on become a prime directive, they create a path to destruction.  Has America’s greatness has been subjugated to the baser instincts of the entitled few?  Power and wealth motivates those in control while propaganda and spin ultimately sweeps all of us into the role of international bully, and the guns are blazing. This is the victim triangle (covered in earlier blog posts) writ large: victim/perpetrator/rescuer.
 
To make matters worse, our children are raised with an entitlement/duty myth.  We train them with violent video games that give them practice shooting and killing.  Gaming anesthetizes them against the pain and suffering that is reality.  Some kids experiment with guns and are surprised to find being shot hurts.  Others, so confused, resentful and battered by their reality, take their guns to school.
 
Is this God’s directive or design?  Of course not; but, God granted us free will.  God is turned easily into to god with a lower case g.  As humanity becomes less humane, more entitled, more willing to form cliques and cults, more willing to follow blindly into the fray, the God of our heart recedes and is replaced with a do-for-god, a fabrication and misinterpretation, who is fought for with righteous, if misplaced, ardor.  This god is a creation of the controllers, the greedy, the vengeful, the unforgiving, the self-righteous, the bully, the entitled.  God allows our choices so we learn through direct experience why some actions are unconscionable. 
 
God is Love.  Remember, all light and shadow is the love of God expressing and teaching.  In keeping with free will, an all loving God allows us to move against all that is true and good knowing that eventually, and after many tries, we will turn back to love and light.  It is the only way to realize the true and loving God in ourselves.  Check yourself.  Do you believe in a God of Love or a god of money?  Do you have a moral direction or a profit margine?  Are you gullible or just self-righteous?  As a nation, are we saviors or despoilers?  Are we beginning our descent into chaos and purgatory?  Will we catch ourselves? Is it too late to turn back?
 
What energy are you adding to the collective?  Can you forgive someone without feeling superior to them?  Can you find compassion for oppressed people seeking asylum or do you feel it is your divine right to shut the door?  How do you feel about the least of these my brethren?  Can you sit with the lonely, even if they aren’t popular?  Is your want more important than anyone else’s need?  Are you willing to own your own thoughts even if they are not in keeping with the party line?  Are you willing to stand up for what is right rather than what is profitable?  We must look deeper, past what we have been spoon fed.  We are all equal in the eyes of God.  We all have free will.  It is up to us to create a national consciousness with a conscience.  It is up to us to reap the blessings of love from a God who is purely love.
 
Love always,
Katherine
 
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Chaos

6/17/2018

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Chaos seems to be reigning.  Everything is in motion, from the macro to the micro level.  Someone, something is stirring the big pot of life.  People are moving; attitudes are shifting.  Challenges are being laid down though often not recognized.  Don’t get me wrong, some of the radical changes that are happening are positive.  Let me restate that; the changes that are happening are positive.  That being said, the world as we know it will not look the same as it did when we were innocent; or, should I say inattentive?
 
At any rate, there is a great sorting going on and I can say with certainty that I finally understand the forces that could cause a civil war: brother against brother, a polarized, conflicted mass of people buying into opposing ideas and ideals.  Profit and power at any cost is what exists on both sides.  Ideals seem an after-thought.  It is a massive tug-of-war that raises questions of integrity, morality, and right use of this planet and its resources.  People, both privileged and powerless, are struggling to be right.  Righteousness wears many faces.  The pious and the put upon both use it, playing out the Victim, defending a position, each trying to improve a status quo that is so badly broken the cries disappear in the chaos.  Religiously maintaining the compulsion to make more money, to rape the world, defile honor, and to get what’s owed or needed, both sides bellow into the chaos and no one hears.
 

I see no Christian ideals here and I wonder if it is true, that a Christian can support the continued abuse of others and still be called Christian.  I wonder if cowardice and complacency have taken over the exhortation to love your neighbor as yourself.  Does a lie matter if it gets you the big return on investment?  Does a child matter if one can exploit its family or homeland with impunity for great gain?  Did any spiritual leader ever say, take all you can get and screw the little guy?  Are we meant to divide and conquer our own nation for the sake of a land grab, or oil royalties, or better and bigger war games?  Are we meant to offend our friends and praise our enemies?  Are the old and vulnerable meant to just shut up and die?  Did Christ say, the least of these my brethren, and mean those who could exploit, and condemn, and lie the best?  Have we lost our souls?

An answer to all these questions can only be found in the silence of the soul.  Can the prejudice and anger be put aside?  Is the self-right-ness of our judgment able to withstand the silence where the soul speaks, or is the chaos too loud?  It is time to step back.  It is time to reconsider.  It is time to follow the truth of our soul’s righteousness.  It is time to find conscience, to call on grace, and to remember integrity or disappear into chaos and destruction.  Either way, it’s a choice.  Either way, all will learn valuable lessons.  Chaos is a great teacher and lessons, even painful ones, are positive. 

Love always,
Katherine 

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In the center of the labyrinth

6/17/2018

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"I stop. Every few steps, I stop, to pray
Oh beloved, be near, lead me.
Tiny, bright yellow flowers respond, see me.
I pass under frayed, bleached prayer flags
flapping in the wind.
I stop.
Grant me grace, fortitude, patience.
And the wind caresses. The sun shining on my face.
A few more steps.
The sun is interrupted by whispering branches.
Shadow flickering and there, In the shadow:
violets, deep, secret, sweet.
A few more steps,
I release my heart; embrace and forgive its pain.
I stop. Dear God help me breathe.
I acknowledge tightness in my throat; it is time.
The wind turns cold and bites at my ear.
There is water. I feel it near, wide, deep, stormy, still.
I stop. I breathe.
Thank you beloved.
In the center of the labyrinth
I collect my soul."

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The Saboteur and You

6/9/2018

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Saboteur archetypal energy screams at you with your inner voice.  It actively and unceasingly sends messages born out of fear of failure and sometimes, fear of success.  You hear it as self-talk or “I messages.”  Because of the Saboteur, you create judgements of and for yourself that skew reality.  Many of these judgements are learned from your tribe very early in your lives. They run the gamut from doubt of capabilities to feelings of being entitled to certain advantages.  There are endless variations of:  I will fail, so why try; What if I got the job, I’m not good enough to keep it;  I’m too good to get involved with these people; I’m entitled to better things.  
 
Make no mistake, entitlement is as big a trap as the, “I can’t”(s).  No, you are not entitled to anything.  Because you were born privileged or you have been victimized in some way does not entitle you to special treatment.  And no, it is not true that you are worthless, helpless, incapable, and so on.  Both of these thought processes are the very thing that stops you from stepping into your real power and expressing the best of who you are.  Unfortunately, once you grow up, you don’t realize you need to think better of yourself and your place in the world.  Most of us somehow feel we need permission to rethink our training which means; we are still operating from the level of the archetypal Child. 
 
Each journey is different.  Your journey is different.  Tribal rules are valuable when you are small and need protection and some of these teachings may still have value.  But, part of self-care must be that you examine the beliefs and dictates of your tribe and decide if they are right for where you are in the expression of your life and soul growth.  Where do you want to go in this life?  This has nothing to do with other’s hopes for you.  You don’t need permission to seek your highest good!
 
Suicide is the ultimate expression of the Saboteur’s work.  People with families, careers that create approbation and privilege, pillars of the community, or the young with unending potential can be so involved in the myths of the Saboteur that they, in desperation, take their own lives.  Fear and the masquerading emotions of defeat, worthlessness, depression, alienation, and anxiety motivate some of our best and brightest to put out their own light.  We are the worse for it.
 
Since the Saboteur speaks to you with your own voice, it is imperative that you are vigilant with your inner dialog.  Those words you tell yourself, no matter the original source, can make you fulfill your every dream or plunge you into defeat and despair.  Think about those times when you let Saboteur speak out.  You might talk about your self-doubts in the hope that someone will convince you that you are wrong about being awful.  While talking may give some relief from the flagellation you endure in your mind, you never believe the kind words spoken in rebuttal.  The Saboteur sees to that.  For true relief, this is a battle you must fight for and, largely, by yourselves.  Your “I messages” must be made loving.  We all need to approach our fragile self with compassion for it to grow into fullness.
 Find the resources deep within to speak and think of yourself with as much love and compassion as you would for other people you meet.  Also, when you hear others expressing negative opinions about themselves, call them on it. Remind them to speak about themselves with loving kindness.  This not only reminds them, it reminds you of that which must be done if you are to stop undermining yourself. Help yourself by being mindful of your self-talk and, when possible, help others to understand the power of their words.
 
Your thoughts and your words create your world.
 
Your thoughts and questions can also help direct our conversations.  I welcome them.  Also, please feel free to like and share on Facebook.
 
Love always,
Katherine

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Saboteur, Guardian of Choice

6/2/2018

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If there is any archetype that goes hand in hand with fear, it would be the Saboteur.  Think about it, we have all been strung up with anxiety and fear at some point in our lives.  This is fodder for the Saboteur. This archetype sneaks into your psyche as self-talk: words you tell yourself about yourself.  It explains how you are not enough, that you are wrong, stupid, too big, too little, too good or any other similar message that pops into your head at the moment of choice.  The Saboteur responds to your fears; it convinces you that what you fear is true.  Much of this fear is derived from your tribe.  Your tribe, made up of your personal group of individuals and institutions, feeds you your first ‘I’ messages from birth.  Most times the intent is not to create unhealthy or unhelpful messages.  If they think about what they are doing at all, they will say they are teaching you to behave in the way that is acceptable to the community into which you have been born. 
 
Unfortunately, many of the messages we get from the tribe are judgmental, critical, and harsh.  Even if there is no intent to harm, personal perception of the teasing, the yelling, and so on imprints on the mind and is believed.  Children take the messages in, imbed them, and define themselves by them, whether they are true or not.  It is important to understand; behaviors that are acceptable according to the tribe are what keep you safe, conforming, and manageable.  This is habit on their part, tradition even, generations old and not necessarily kind or in alignment with your personal soul journey.
 
How does the Saboteur play out in life?  Imagine you are a teen and you meet a beautiful, brainy girl.  How automatic is it for you to think, she’s never going to fall for me, I’m too stupid.  Look at her, she is exquisite and I am nothing special?  How easy is it to manage saying hello to her?  How easy is it to face up to the click at school or work and put the real you out there?  Are the messages in your mind, they are so awesome; there is no way I will ever be allowed in that group.  With better ‘I’ messages, you have what it takes to develop real friends.  Imagine you are an office worker, diligent, careful, punctual, and accurate.  A job opening is up that would be a good advancement for you.  How do you talk to yourself about the possibility?  Do you convince yourself that you will not get the job, that other people are smarter or more likable so why apply?  If you are in an abusive relationship but you just can’t get out, what are those messages?  I can’t take care of myself, I’m too stupid to get a job, I  can’t make it on my own, I’ll never find someone to love me.  My (abuser) cannot take care of him/herself. It’s up to me. 
 
The fight for yourself can be very difficult, long and, yes, sometimes tedious but it is worth more than anything else you could do.  Fear has played a big role in my own life.  I was plagued with nightmares awake and asleep.  Growing up and for a long while as an adult, I pretty much felt anyone was better than me.  I never spoke up for myself; I always gave my right to choose what I wanted or what I liked away to teachers, friends, or siblings; You cannot be fulfilled, happy, or honestly productive if you must always wait for someone else’s blessing or permission.
 
What value do you place on you?  Can you recognize your thoughts as yours or are they echoes of what you have been told by people around you?  Is the voice that criticizes you in your head your voice or someone else’s? How hard is it for you to say what you want?  For example, can you choose a restaurant when you are out with others? Simple things provide big clues. Do you recognize your Saboteur?
 
Remember to like and share this work if it speaks to you and, please, feel free to ask questions or make comments to further the discussion.
 
Love always,
Katherine
 


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Fear - More than the boogeyman

5/26/2018

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A reader asked for more about fear.  Fear plays some part in every extreme emotion you have.  Fear fuels the Saboteur, the Victim and the Prostitute archetypes (and others).  These archetypes are three of four survival archetypes.  The fourth survival archetype is the Child and, while the Child is not necessarily fueled by fear at the outset, fear informs the teachings, limitations, and prejudices they are raised with.  In other words, much of the programing that comes from our tribe in our early years is based in fear.  Certainly it grows up with us and, often, grows in us.  Feelings of Rejection, insecurity, submissiveness, haughtiness, worthlessness, and indecisiveness are good indicators of strong fear responses.  These emotional states are fear masquerading as something else. 
 
We do come by fear honestly.  Long before we had to be concerned for our cholesterol, we had to fear for our lives; where will the next meal come from?  Will I be some predator’s next meal?  Long ago our lives were less secure and far more dangerous which caused basic level, instinctual programing.  All of us carry this programing, even though. For the most part, we do not have those kinds of dangers anymore.
 
It is very difficult to turn off primal responses; our reaction to danger from the past has turned into (over)reactions today.  Fear’s language sounds like this:
Rejection - I am always left out.  I never get asked to participate in fun times.
Insecurity - I’m not good enough to be included.  If only I could be prettier.
Submissiveness - Anything you want.  I don’t deserve to have a say.  Just don’t hurt me.
Haughtiness - If people find out what I’m really like, I will be humiliated. 
Worthlessness - I never get it right, I always mess everything up.  I’m not good for anything.
 
This is the language of “I can’t”   and in one way or another; it expresses a basic fear of failing.  Now consider people who seem to feel like the world owes them; they are entitled by station, aggressiveness,  or whatever it might be.  They seem confident in their outward appearance and yet, fear is a very prominent theme in their lives as well.  They fear that they will be called out, possibly humiliated.  They fear loss of their perceived position in society.  Somehow they know they are out of balance and are afraid they can’t continue to measure up. 
 
 
To be absorbed by fear in any manner is to give your personal power away to the more dominant personality, to the approval of society, and so on.  At this level you are a re-actor.  As long as you are ruled by these fears, you will be unable to act with self-contained and self-regulated integrity.  The faces of fear are projections of that which you fear; projections created by your fear of choosing. The fear behind weakness, insecurity, haughtiness, and all the rest strips away the container (boundaries, another of The Five Words) where your integrity should be and you are left trembling, ready to be eaten alive.
 
Fear makes sense for a caveman or someone in a war zone, but for us in day to day life, fear stops us from finding and expressing the truth about out divine nature. The primary impulse of creation is love.  Fear is what blocks love.  Fear itself cannot be blocked; resisting it just makes it bigger, and so you must choose.
 
Everything comes down to choice which is the first of The Five Words covered in my book.  Every infinitesimal moment of consciousness is imbued with the steering wheel of choice. The boat that is your life sinks, flounders, or floats on the ocean of emotion depending on choice.  How you choose to respond to your emotions dictates your experience with them and your experience with life.
 
What are your fears?  How do your fears stop you?  Are you afraid of succeeding?  Do you feel like, no matter what, you will fail?  Do you have hope?  Can you act on it? 
 
We can certainly talk more about fear.  What are your questions or concerns?  Fear is huge.  So many of us are afraid and don’t understand there is a way through.  Please like and Share on Facebook if you feel this discussion is important.  For more immediate help with fear and the other extreme emotions, please contact me or get my book here.
 
Love always,
Katherine


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To be or Not to be

5/19/2018

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We have done a lot of talking about the Victim archetype.  It got me thinking about what makes a victim.   Not all people who have been traumatized become subject to the negative side of Victim energies; yet we all have a Victim archetype.  The question is, on which side of the spectrum does your personal experience with the Victim show up?
 
In concentration camps, in areas with young people committing suicide due to public judgement, in black or Hispanic populations, and in so many other places, prejudice was/is a common daily pressure.  In some cases historically, spiritual mindset and attitudes made all the difference for those being victimized.  For example, certain people in concentration camps came through their experiences as leading lights for others to follow.  While many died from abuse and despair and many were just plain murdered during the holocaust; some prisoners recognized their true worth as separate from their circumstance and not only survived, but brought hope and faith to those beside them.  Nelson Mandela is another example.  After years of incarceration in South Africa he said, “As I walked toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.”  He made a choice to walk away from the role of victim.  This takes character.
 
The experience of prejudice can be very grim, very painful.  How experiences are internalized determines what creates despair or light.  This brings us back to character.  Character needs to be built as a wholly contained, self-aware reality which includes self-worth, unshakeable awareness of an innate divine right to be, and appreciation for personal gifts and destiny.  It doesn’t change the fact that there are those with less understanding and awareness of the divine in all beings.  It just means you will be challenged and not falter.  That you may be victimized but you will not become a victim.  It means that you have a basis for faith; a reason for being that is not defined by the interrelated set of beliefs, attitudes, and values held by some of the community. 
 
On the other hand, if you buy into the mythos of the prejudiced around you and argue for your self-worth based on their judgements, your struggle with Victim energies will be destructive.  You ask the wrong set of questions:  Why me?  What is wrong with me?  How can you say these things about me?  How can you be so mean?   These are all questions of a victim.  These are all questions that give your power to another.  They are questions inspired out of fear.  (Fear is the first extreme emotion covered in my book.)  Questions such as these say, I have given you power and control over me.  They cause reactions; push back or despair.  I would like to offer a third option:  Empower yourself! 
 
The second of The Five Words, Empowerment, is the key.  Empowerment creates freedom to be, to express, to triumph over external experience while honoring the life and experience around you.  There are many ways to lose power; there are many ways to give it away.  Empower yourself.  Being truly empowered frees you from the need to react.  You are not a victim unless you choose to give weight to the judgments of others.  Also, be careful of your own self-judgement.  It is possible to victimize yourself with your internal dialog.
 
 To find where you are challenged, look at where you react and where you overreact.  Where in your life do you feel like a victim?  Where and when do you victimize others?  Where do you lose power?  You can learn more about these important emotions and responses and what to do about them in my book.  Please feel free to like and share with your friends on Facebook.  Additionally, feel free to question and comment as these enrich the discussions.

Love always,
Katherine

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Perspective on the Victim

5/12/2018

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Archetypes are subtle energies that are woven into our lives and are the teaching formula we use for life lessons.  Recently we have been talking about the Victim archetype.  This archetype is part of everyone’s energy anatomy.  Often it is in play with two other archetypes, Perpetrator and Rescuer.  Karpman[1] defines the interaction of these three archetypes as the Victim Triangle.  His conclusion is that if you enter the victim triangle at any point, you will eventually play all three roles.  This is a circular dynamic.  All three of these archetypes are very common in our world.  Let me point out that while we all have the Victim as part of our energy system, we don’t all participate in the victim triangle.
 
That being said, the world community is reactive for the most part.  We react according to the ingrained beliefs of our respective tribes.  These beliefs are considered inviolable.  They describe our view of how the world should be (our prejudice).  Some people react out of fear, anger, worry, shock, and/or grief and feel they must defend their beliefs when they are challenged.
 
There are many groups that inspire prejudice; people of color, fat people, immigrants, and the LGBTQ community, among others.  Because of the recent news about the increase in suicides among young people in the LGBTQ community, I want to discuss them specifically.  Just ask, are they deviants or are they one of our greatest blessings?  What is their perspective?  How difficult it must be to withstand harsh, sometimes vicious and violent responses from loved ones, church members, the rest of the tribe, and even from their own conflicted selves!  People who react strongly against the LGBTQ community maintain those living that lifestyle are just wrong, evil even.  They are called abhorrent, against divine law.  Here I must ask, does God really love anyone of us more than another?  My God is not that small.  Remember, all of creation was accomplished out of an impulse of pure love.
 
For most of the LGBTQ community, the choice was made before they were born.  They are the embodiment of Katye Anna Clark’s, “I will be that which you have asked me to be so that you can be what you need to be.”  Since we do not remember our pre-life sacred contracts, our choices on earth become difficult and are often not aligned with love.  Here is a situation where a whole sub set of our community has agreed to a very difficult journey in this life.  Make no mistake; on a soul level they have taken this path out of a great love and dedication to our collective spiritual journey.  Our response to our prejudice determines if we are perpetrators who judge, punish, and revile, or if we follow the path of love, acceptance, and grace. 
 
Those people who are reactive to the LGBTQ lifestyle feel their standard of decent behavior is violated. A foundational belief is challenged. They feel a responsibility to bring the LGBTQ person back into the fold and when the attempt is resisted, they feel rejected, punished, anxious, and, yes, even victimized.  This is a tribal response.  The reactive part of the LGBTQ community feels rejected and judged.  They feel torn between what the tribe has told them is right and acceptable and their natural orientation.  They struggle for understanding and acceptance and feel like victims when this is denied. Of course, they push back or despair. Despair is what caused the increased rate of suicide reported recently. Bottom line, each group feels victimized.  Each group feels it necessary to justify, rescue, or push back.  Too often, the opportunity to practice loving compassion and acceptance is lost to fear, anxiety, and rejection of the misunderstood other.  The emotions causing these conflicts are all of the extreme emotions I talk about in my book: fear, grief, worry, shock, and anger.  Remember, all of these emotions are part of creation in order to inspire us, to teach us, and to lead us back to Divine love.
 
So, I want to say thank you to the LGBTQ community, and to all others like it, for taking on such a difficult journey.  You do not need justification for your existence.  You do not need society’s blessing.  You are gifts to our world.  You are among the highest of teachers. You challenge our perceptions.  We challenge your right to be different.  As a consequence, we both have an opportunity to learn to be accepting and respectful while still being who and what we are.  As a world community, our journey through judgement and prejudice is difficult, to say the least, but if groups such as LGBTQ can be born as a spring board toward divine compassion and love, we can all strive to step out of the victim triangle.
 
My wish is that these words will give hope to the despairing and conflicted young out there.  You are loved by the Highest Source.  Your lives matter.

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Love always,
Katherine


[1] Karpman, S. (1968). Fairy tales and script drama analysis. Transactional Analysis Bulletin, 7(26), 39-43.

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